“I’m a movement by myself, but I’m a force when we’re together!” Haaaaaay………! I am celebrating my 6 Year Wedding Anniversary with a husband that truly makes me better! Check out my top 5 tips(in no particular order) that have aided in the success of our 6 years of marriage. Cheers!
- Have Fun! Laugh A lot. Times may get tough. Family members pass away, finances become tight, kids become consuming, dreams & goals get pushed on the back burner; hell some days you will barely have 30 solid minutes alone together because you are simply exhausted. Especially if you have little ones and family members are miles away. Laughter has truly been the best medicine in our marriage. We laugh about super old memories, new ones, silly past disagreements, favorite tv shows, etc. Laughter keeps us so closely connected. It’s a constant reminder that not only do I have a loving husband, but also a super fun best friend!
- In the words of TLC, keep it crazy, sexy, cool! I know the last thing on your mind most of the time is getting sexy and on GOSH, the prep that it takes, mentally, physically and sometimes emotionally is teeeeeeeeew much! Gotta shave, find something to slip into that enhances your “post baby body,” mentally block out the areas that use to perk and body surfaces that use to be dimple and stretch mark free. However, it is SUPER crucial to do so. Just try to remember that loving spouses realize that a whole child/children came out of your body. So despite what we SEE in the mirror, that accomplishment alone will always be sexy in their eyes. In fact, the labor of bearing a child only enhances the sexiness. Also, men literally don’t care about how your body has changed. LoL! They just want the goodies. REAL TALK! So get outta your head, buy that random just because card, plan a day date or night, pull the tags off that matching pantie set you received a gazillion years ago from your wedding shower (LMAO) & just keep it fun!
- Support each others individual goals, wildest dreams, & past/future wins. Pouring into each others passion has been one of the best acts of love. Knowing that someone cares about “my soul” and the talent that God has placed within me is EVERYTHING. Make sure that you are checking in with your spouse and their individual needs. Encourage them to finish that big project around the house, reorganize their home office, launch that business idea, because the saying “Happy Wife, Happy Life” works both ways. Happy Husband, means Happy Life too!
- Learn and study your spouses love language. For some it maybe words or affirmations & physical touch, for others it maybe material items or random acts of kindness. Either way, when you are thinking about what would make your spouse happy or put a smile on his or her face, think about it from an unselfish lens. Remember to give them what they need even if it doesn’t align with what your love language needs are.
- Keep God First. I was blessed and fortunate that my spouse and I shared the same spiritual believes at the start of dating. So God has always been the foundation of our relationship since we met 11 years ago. We all know that a solid foundation increases the stability of a lasting marriage. The architectural language that says “this house was built on solid grounds,” is also total FACTS in a marriage as well. So whatever higher power you believe in make sure that you are both operating in the same spiritual frequency.
What tips have helped your marriage or relationships be successful? Comment or leave a congrats below!
